The death of a loved one by suicide has all the trappings of conventional grief plus a host of other intense, difficult and confusing emotions. These include feelings of guilt and responsibility, anger and blame and often a disconnect with the individual who killed himself. When we lose a loved one to cancer or AIDS, we accept the reality, feel the loss, grieve, yet we don't blame ourselves. Following a suicide, it is hard to accept the reality that the individual chose death. We feel responsible and wonder, 'If I had only... he'd be alive today.' We would rather blame ourselves because it is difficult to place the responsibility where it belongs, on the individual who killed himself.
“Parsha Perspectives” – Bo 5778 - Parshat Bo 5778 (In Spanish with English subtitles) Rabbi Eliahu Birnbaum – Director of OTS’s Beren-Amiel and Straus-Amiel Emissary Training Programs
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